5 Warning Signs that you are Sabotaging Yourself

We all sabotage our growth at one point or another. We are all going to get to a plateau and feel like we aren’t growing at the pace we’d like. 

When things are bad, you’re willing to do whatever it takes to find the answers. You look beyond yourself to see if there is a light at the end of the tunnel. When things are good, you do the minimum. You think you’ve got everything under control and you’ve made it through the storm. That’s when you start to sabotage your growth. That’s when you start thinking that what got you through the storm is enough.

Why do most men self-sabotage? Why do most men stop building momentum in their lives? 

1- You think you’ve arrived.

You think you’ve made it. This is the most dangerous place to be: to think that you’ve already reached your fullest potential. If this happens, you become uncoachable. You’re not listening to guidance and feedback anymore. You think you already know everything. 

2- You hit a plateau

You get frustrated because you get some results, but not the results that you want. But even though you’re stuck, you refuse to try new things. You get stuck because you lack creativity and innovation, so you want to tear down what you’ve built and start over. It’s easier to tear things down than to innovate. 

3- You get complacent

Most men are complacent. They think this is as good as it can get, and they stop pushing themselves. When you stop pushing yourself, you stop sharpening your EDGE. You compare yourself to other people to make yourself feel good. You are no longer hungry to pursue greatness. You no longer have the fire to overcome your challenges.

4-You stop bringing value.

You worry about keeping what you have instead of giving more. You start to think that people want to take from you instead of you freely giving. You’re stuck in the transaction more when you should be looking for transformation. Instead of contributing, then you become a taker. At this point, you’re no longer living in abundance, you’re afraid of not having enough. Life is only going to give you what you’re willing to give life, and if you want to take, you attract takers. 

5- You underestimated how hard it was going to be to succeed.

You underestimated the price you have to pay. If it were easy, everyone would do it. Not everyone is going to pay the price. Not everyone is going to see your vision. That’s why most people give up on their dreams: they didn’t think it was going to be this hard. They give up, but tell themselves, “At least I tried.” 

How you show up during hard times keeps you sharpening your EDGE. Half the battle is showing up. Half the battle is following through on your commitment. Half the battle is understanding it’s going to be harder than you think. Stop asking for an easy life, and get stronger. You have to be an active participant in your own salvation. Accept that it’s going to be hard. 

Living on the EDGE is not a one-time thing. You don’t go through one boot camp or attend one Leadership Summit and then you have the EDGE. Having the EDGE is a lifestyle. You have to maintain the EDGE every day. It will be hard. Success is hard. Leadership is hard. Making an impact is hard. If you want an easy life, stay sedated. It’s easy to sit around and complain. It’s easy to be a victim. 

You sabotage yourself when you:

-Tell yourself you’ve made it

- Hit a plateau

- Become complacent

- Stop bringing value to the marketplace

What is the value you’re bringing to the marketplace? The value is your experience. The value is your wisdom. The value is your story. When you share your experience, you’re going to let someone else see that they can achieve their goals, because they see what you’ve done. You can be an example to other men who come after you. The problem is that you think you need to be perfect to create an impact. God wants to use your situation, no matter how messy, to bring light into the darkness. 

You sabotage yourself when you want life to be easy. Average men want an easy life. You’re not going to find a shortcut here. We don’t do easy. You don’t want an easy life, you want a life that is worth living. When you look back at your life, you are going to have to answer the question, what did you do with your talents? What did you do with your life? Life is only willing to give you what you’re willing to give life, so you have to give life everything you have. 

Stop asking what The Next Level Experience can do for you, and start thinking about how you can bring value to everyone around you. What are you doing to share your story? What are you doing to sharpen someone else’s EDGE, because that’s the only way to sharpen yours. 

The sabotage will come. Doubt and fear and darkness will come. But if you’re contributing, connecting, and giving, people will give you back what you give them. 

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